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Reply #50 diane (80.192.11.64) - 10/10/09 08:51

hi can someone please help me am about 2 marry my algerian bf but ii want 2 know is will do i need a visa every time i go 2 algeria when am married were planning 2 marry in tunisia so once we, ve married i want 2 visit algeria but am not sure if i can get a visa wen am in tunisia or not .

Reply #51 beverley from east london (Contact Member) - 11/05/09 09:09

"the reality of two wifes"

hi ive been married for 18 years to a algerien man we have three children .in 2007 we moved to algeria because life in london was to fast we had a lot of problems .the time in algeria was not easy i dont speak arabic or french but understand a lot .the last few years in algiers have been realy hard my husband was out all day and some nights leaving me with hte children thing went from bad to worse then last week he told me a nice algerien girl has fallen for him she knows his married but wants to be his wife and he wants her as they have been seeing eachother for a whole year.and fallen in love im totaly shocked angry and sad .she wants him no matter what so last week he asked for her hand all the family agreed they know he is married with children and for 18 years she will live in algeria and with my kids and husband i will live here in london and he will visit me just for a few weeks every few months .my children studt in algeria and he wants them to stay the kids are ok but want mum and dad together not apart this women has taken my husband mt kids my home basicly my life and he thinks she is a wounderfull women shes 29 from zeralda .and comes from a good family he says .im told that young women in algeria do this all the time just to get married .because home life is hard .plus she is unable to have children her family are happy that someone wants her because most men will want children .im heart broken after 18 years how can someone be this cold in their heart .and i love him so much and truly cant understand that this has happend to my kids and me.last week he got engaged and will marry in a few months weather i like it or not he has changed since going home .

Reply #52 sarah72 from UK (Contact Member) - 11/05/09 11:48

"Cultural Differences"

Hi Beverley,

I'm so sorry to hear your story, it must be a horrible feeling to feel so easily "replaced" after such a long time with someone. I think that in the end this is a fundamental cultural difference. I think in most of the "developed" world we believe that monogamy is the norm. From tv and globalisation we have kind of silently agreed what we deem "acceptable", but this is simply not the case in so many other parts of the world, and even those that emmigrate and live somewhere else, they rarely lose the original cultural impressions from their childhood and family culture.

A friend of mine dated a Arab man for many years, they lived together in London for a long time and were very good friends as well as a couple. He may have had a very different cultural background but they seemed like a very normal "Westernised" couple. Then after 7 years together they got married and suddenly things changed. He suddenly became this stereotypical misogynistic "male dominant, women silent and in the kitchen tending to family matters". Nobody could believe it. He was one step away from putting a ball and chain on her foot!

When you are with someone who is from a very different culture sometimes the things that you assume are unspoken agreements are not, and sometimes you realise this too late.

I hope you find someone new that you can trust and deserves that love and trust. Good luck

Reply #53 naci (89.194.68.25) - 11/22/09 09:08

"22/09/2009"

azoul falawan

I am naci from algeria on the North africa where the berbers situated

i been in london for the last 13 yrs but i don't like it much as before.

i like to going back but just for holiday and i would like to know if i need a visa to get there, i am french citizen, born in france living living in london. do i need a visa? and can someone tell me how to get it and where.

thanks alot

naci.

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